The Bereaved

In 2017 when my grandmother died, I started a blog about grieving so I’d have somewhere to put my thoughts because all I could think about, or write about, was my grandmother. Now I’m using that blog to grieve my grandmother and my uncle. Below is my latest post on that blog. If you want to hear more about my grief journey here, let me know in the comments.

“When I started this blog, I never imagined I’d be using it to grieve anyone besides my grandmother…which doesn’t make much sense since I plan on keeping this blog active as long as it isn’t cost-prohibitive to do so.

On Monday night, all of that changed when my uncle passed away. Funnily enough, I got the call while I was watching The Bachelor. My uncle had been in the hospital for weeks. My mother called me and told me he’d taken a turn for the worst. I found out from my aunt later that day that he’d been put on a feeding tube. I’d been holding out hope my uncle was going to come out of his illness alive until I heard that. From what I’ve heard from other people, and what I know from my grandmother’s death, once someone can’t eat on his own, or stops eating, he’s getting close to the end.

I immediately put a care plan in place: I told my cousin I didn’t think our uncle was going to make it and therefore, she needed to answer her phone when I called, no matter what. See my cousin and most of my immediate family all…